In his great essay on the subject, CS Lewis writes that the essence of chivalry, the fundamental difference making it “an ideal distinct from other ideals,” is best captured in the eulogy for Sir Lancelot from Malory’s Morte d’Arthur: “And thou were the most courteous knight that ever bare shield. And thou were the kindest man that ever struck with sword. And thou were the goodliest person that ever came among press of knights. And thou were the meekest man and the gentlest that ever ate in hall among ladies. And thou were the stearnest knight to thy mortal foe that ever put spear in the rest.”
Of greater importance than these is bringing one's presence - not just the obvious physical, but more importantly mental presence. This allows for meaningful communication to occur over that age-old 'ceremony' of breaking bread with someone and give that time the significant gravitas that it deserves. Also, bring a spirit of openness and willingness to observe (within reason) the vagaries of your host's customs. If you are going to focus on cultivating chivalry, you must teach how to seriously discuss religion and politics without it devolving into useless arguing.
Of greater importance than these is bringing one's presence - not just the obvious physical, but more importantly mental presence. This allows for meaningful communication to occur over that age-old 'ceremony' of breaking bread with someone and give that time the significant gravitas that it deserves. Also, bring a spirit of openness and willingness to observe (within reason) the vagaries of your host's customs. If you are going to focus on cultivating chivalry, you must teach how to seriously discuss religion and politics without it devolving into useless arguing.